“Misery loves company” is a centuries-old proverb, and isn’t it true that when we have a sad story to tell we can always find an audience? But why do we have such an investment in being miserable, when we could just as easily choose to be happy?
“Misery has many things to give to you which happiness cannot give. On the contrary, happiness takes away many things from you. Happiness takes all that you have ever had, all that you have ever been; happiness destroys you.
“Misery nourishes your ego, and happiness is basically a state of egolessness. That is the problem, the very crux of the problem. That’s why people find it very difficult to be happy.
“That’s why millions of people in the world have to live in misery, have decided to live in misery. It gives you a very, very crystallized ego. Miserable, you are. Happy, you are not. In misery: crystallization; in happiness you become diffused.
“If this is understood then things become very clear. Misery makes you special. Happiness is a universal phenomenon, there is nothing special about it. Trees are happy and animals are happy and birds are happy. The whole existence is happy, except man. Being miserable, man becomes very special, extraordinary.
“Misery makes you capable of attracting people’s attention. Whenever you are miserable you are attended to, sympathized with, loved. Everybody starts taking care of you. Who wants to hurt a miserable person? Who is jealous of a miserable person? Who wants to be antagonistic to a miserable person? That would be too mean.
“The miserable person is cared for, loved, attended to. There is great investment in misery. If the wife is not miserable the husband simply tends to forget her. If she is miserable the husband cannot afford to neglect her. If the husband is miserable the whole family, the wife, the children, are around him, worried about him; it gives great comfort. One feels one is not alone, one has a family, friends.
“When you are ill, depressed, in misery, friends come to visit you, to solace you, to console you. When you are happy, the same friends become jealous of you. When you are really happy, you will find the whole world has turned against you.
“Nobody likes a happy person, because the happy person hurts the egos of the others.
“The others start feeling, ‘So you have become happy and we are still crawling in darkness, misery and hell. How dare you be happy when we all are in such misery!’
“And of course the world consists of miserable people, and nobody is courageous enough to let the whole world go against him; it is too dangerous, too risky. It is better to cling to misery, it keeps you a part of the crowd. Happy, and you are an individual; miserable, you are part of a crowd – Hindu, Mohammedan, Christian, Indian, Arabian, Japanese.
“Happy? Do you know what happiness is? Hindu, Christian, Mohammedan?
“Happiness is simply happiness. One is transported into another world. One is no longer part of the world the human mind has created, one is no longer part of the past, of the ugly history. One is no more part of time at all. When you are really happy, blissful, time disappears, space disappears.
“Albert Einstein has said that in the past scientists used to think that there were two realities – space and time. But he said that these two realities are not two – but two faces of the same single reality. Hence he coined the word spaciotime, a single word. Time is nothing else but the fourth dimension of space.
“He was not a mystic, otherwise he would have introduced the third thing also – the transcendental, neither space nor time. That too is there: the witness. And once these three are there, you have the whole trinity. You have the whole concept of trimurti, three faces of God. Then you have all the four dimensions. The reality is four-dimensional: three dimensions of space, and the fourth dimension of time.
“But there is something else, which cannot be called the fifth dimension, because it is not the fifth really, it is the whole, the transcendental.
“When you are blissful you start moving into the transcendental.
“It is not social, it is not traditional, it has nothing to do with human mind at all.”