Love makes the world go ’round. It’s “all you need,” according to The Beatles. Yet love is risky. It means making ourselves vulnerable, opening ourselves up to someone else with no certainty of what will happen, and for many of us, the risk seems too great.
Why are so afraid to risk all for love? How did this happen?
“Love is falling together with the universe, falling in a togetherness. It is orgasmic: you are streaming, and the existence has always been streaming, and both streamings meet and mingle and are infused in each other. A higher synthesis arises: the part is meeting in the whole and the whole is meeting in the part. Then something arises which is more than the part and the whole together – that is what love is. Love is one of the most significant words in human languages because love is existential language.
“But somehow, from the very childhood, we are being crippled. Our roots with the heart are cut. We are forced towards the head and we are not allowed to move towards the heart. It is something humanity has suffered for long, a calamity – that man has not yet become capable of living with love.
“There are reasons. Love is risky. To love is to move into danger – because you cannot control it, it is not safe. It is not within your hands. It is unpredictable: where it will lead nobody knows. Whether it will lead anywhere, that too nobody knows. One is moving into utter darkness, but roots grow only in darkness. If the roots of a tree become afraid of darkness and don’t move underground, the tree will die. They have to move into darkness. They have to find their way towards the deepest layers of the earth where they can find sources of water, nourishment.
“The heart is the darkest part of your being, it is like a dark night. It is your very womb, it is your earth. So people are afraid to move into darkness, they would like to remain in light. At least you can see where you are and what is going to happen. You are safe, secure. When you move in love you cannot calculate the possibilities, you cannot calculate the results. You cannot be result-oriented. For love, future does not exist, only the present exists. You can be in this moment but you cannot think anything about the next moment. No planning is possible in love.
“The society, civilization, culture, church – all force a small child to be more logical. They try to focus his energies in the head. Once the energies are focused in the head, it becomes very difficult to fall towards the heart. In fact, every child is born with great love energy. The child is born out of love energy. The child is full of love, trust. Have you looked into the eyes of a small child? How trusting! The child can trust anything: the child can play with a snake, the child can go with anybody. The child can move so close to a fire that it can become dangerous – because the child has not yet learned how to doubt. So we teach doubt, we teach skepticism, we teach logic. These seem to be measures for survival. We teach fear, we teach caution, we teach prudence – and all these together kill the possibility of love.”